Mentored by a Milker of Cows

Family Newsletter, Mental Health, Spiritual Health
Long-time readers know of my fondness and appreciation for Bill Judge, a retired dairyman in Kissimmee, Florida, who has been my mentor and coach since the mid-1980's. Now that my father has passed, Bill has become my second dad. In a 2010 blog, "Mentored by a Milker of Cows," I told you the story about Bill's loving mentoring of me. Now this story is being retold by Significant Living magazine: (more…)
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Want to Marry Your Soul Mate? Could This Lead An Increased Risk of Divorce?

Marriage and Family Health, Men's Health, Mental Health, Woman's Health
I must confess: this one surprised me. But, after reading the details, I wonder ... After all, Brad Wilcox is one of my favorite researchers and writers. See what you think ... A surprising new study has reported that the idea of marrying your ‘soul mate’ may be a nice idea in theory and in chick flicks, but may not be such a good idea in real life.  Here are the details from Cosmopolitan: "Couples who believe in soul mates have such high expectations of marriage, and when those aren't met they're more likely to enter into conflict or even end up getting divorced," explains Bradford Wilcox, PhD, Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. He added that these types of couples expect an intense positive…
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Infidelity Rises When She Makes More Than He Does

Marriage and Family Health, Men's Health, Mental Health, Woman's Health
A new study finds that men are more likely to cheat if their income is much lower than what their wife or female partner makes, while women are more likely to fool around if they make more than their husband or male partner. The findings suggest that disparities in moneymaking play a significant role in infidelity, at least among the young couples they studied. Here are the details in a report from HealthDay News (don't miss Barb's comments below): Study author Christin Munsch said, "... for men, the less money you make relative to your spouse, the more likely you are to engage in infidelity." Munsch, a graduate student at Cornell University, said she came up with the idea of studying the effects of income on infidelity after hearing from a…
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Trip to Italy – Days #13-14 – Rome Days #1-2 – The Wedding

Family Newsletter
Yesterday, Thursday, May 20, we trained to Rome and then checked into the Roman Residence (where we stayed earlier in the trip). Massimo, the owner, warmly welcomed us back and had our very large and comfortable room ready for us, including the wedding clothes he had kept for us. After sprucing up a bit, we took the metro to a small trattoria not far from the Vatican and spent the afternoon with about 40 dear friends from Kissimmee and Orlando who were attending the wedding of the youngest daughter (Anne) of our dear friends, Dr. John and Cleta Hartman. John and I practiced family medicine together in Kissimmee, from 1985 - 2001, when we left Florida to join the staff of Focus on the Family. Before that, in 1978-1979, John…
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New research touts the benefits of marriage on health

Marriage and Family Health, Men's Health, Mental Health, Woman's Health
Tara Parker-Pope, of the New York Times, recently did an excellent analysis on the topic of the effects of marriage on health. Parker-Pope reports, "Contemporary studies ... have shown that married people are less likely to get pneumonia, have surgery, develop cancer, or have heart attacks." I wrote quite a bit about this phenomena in my book 10 Essentials of Happy, Healthy People: Becoming and staying highly healthy.  Now, a group of Swedish researchers has found that being married at midlife is also associated with a lower risk for dementia. Indeed, Parker-Pope writes, "for many years, studies like these have influenced both politics and policy, fueling national marriage-promotion efforts, like the Healthy Marriage Initiative of the US Department of Health and Human Services. From 2006 to 2010, the program received…
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MEDIA ALERT: Dr. Walt and Barb to be featured on Focus on the Family Wednesday, December 16, 2009

General Health, Marriage and Family Health
Barb and I have just learned that an interview we did with Dr. James Dobson for his daily international Focus on the Family radio broadcast has been selected among "The Best of 2009." The broadcast was titled, "Differences That Strengthen a Marriage" and will be broadcast on Wednesday, December 16, 2009. This is from the FOTF website: Dr. Walt Larimore and his wife, Barbara, offer insight to couples in a discussion based on their book His Brain, Her Brain: How Divinely Designed Differences Can Strengthen a Marriage. On or after December 16, 2009, you can listen to a replay of the broadcast here. Or, you can find a local station on which to listen to the broadcast here. If you would like to order an autographed (and personalized) copies of…
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Marriage is Positive for Kids

Children's Health, Marriage and Family Health, Parenting
http://www.citizenlink.org/content/A000011469.cfm Having a married mom and dad has an impact on a child's future, according to data http://www.heritage.org/Research/Family/Map_of_Religion.pdf from The Heritage Foundation. The group used data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health to look at marriage and the role it plays in raising healthy children. Christine Kim, policy analyst for The Heritage Foundation, said healthy marriage role models affect kids' future married life and family formation. "If they come from a family with divorced parents," she said, "that might impact their likelihood of getting divorced in the future as well." The study, called "A Portrait of Family and Religion in America," found families with a high level of conflict had an impact on children later in life. "Their marriage may be less functional" Kim said.  "There might be…
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Loneliness is increasing and it can harm your health

Mental Health
In my new book (to be released in a couple of weeks), 10 Essentials of Happy, Healthy People, I have a chapter on "Avoid Loneliness Like the Plague." Now, another expert and author on loneliness told a session Thursday on the opening day of the American Psychological Association annual meeting in Toronto that "being lonely isn't bad for you, but staying lonely is!" More Information: (more…)
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His Brain, Her Brain: The Impact upon Patient, Personal, and Professional Relationships

Marriage and Family Health, Men's Health, Mental Health, Woman's Health
In 2008 I was honored to be asked to present this topic to the 36th Annual Conference of the American Academy of Physician Assistants in San Antonio, TX. The talk and the handout were prepared from my and Barb’s book His Brain, Her Brain: How divinely designed differences can strengthen your marriage. I thought you might be interested in seeing a copy of the handout I prepared for the meeting. Feel free to share it with others. More Information: (more…)
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Children of Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt Want to Know Why Their Parents Aren’t Married

Bioethics, Children's Health, Health Headlines, Marriage and Family Health, Parenting
Angelina Jolie says her children are asking why she and Brad Pitt aren't married. According to CitizenLink, the 33-year-old actress told Italian Vanity Fair the kids want to know why Shrek and Fiona, characters from the movie Shrek, got married and she and Pitt haven't. More Information: (more…)
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Poll Shows Sex within Marriage is Fulfilling (much more than sex out of marriage)

Health Headlines, Marriage and Family Health, Men's Health, Mental Health, Woman's Health
About 88 percent of married Americans say they are happy or reasonably content in their marriages. And three-quarters report that their sex lives are reasonably fulfilling. That's according to a new national poll of 1,001 married Americans commissioned by Parade magazine. My Take: (more…)
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Marriage May Protect Against Dementia (and improves health in many other ways)

General Health, Health Headlines, Marriage and Family Health, Men's Health, Mental Health, Woman's Health
MedPage is reporting that the give and take of marriage may be enough to stave off Alzheimer's disease and other cognitive impairment – based upon a prospective population-based study which found that people living alone from midlife on were almost three times as likely to develop some level of cognitive impairment as those who were living with a spouse.  My Take? (more…)
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The power of a healthy marriage

General Health, Marriage and Family Health
A good marriage is a great way to avoid loneliness and cultivate a warm and supportive relationship. Two news stories this week report that good marriages impact physical health. These stories confirm much previous research that shows that people who are happily married not only tend to live longer than those who are unmarried, but also appear to live more highly healthy lives; they have increased quantity and quality of life. (more…)
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