Being the parent of an adolescent boy is legendary for its difficulty. But according to one priest, who acts as a spiritual director for high school boys, just keeping in mind seven points can make for a better relationship with adolescent sons.
As reported by Life News, Father Michael Sliney suggests the following seven necessities for parents of adolescent boys:
- Clear guidelines with reasonable consequences from a unified front; cutting slack but also holding boys accountable for their actions.
- Reasonable explanations for the criteria, guidelines and decisions made by parents.
- Avoiding hyper-analysis of boys’ emotions and states of mind: avoiding “taking their temperature” too often.
- Unconditional love with an emphasis on character and effort more than outcome: Encourage boys to live up to their potential while having reasonable expectations. To love them regardless of whether they make it into Harvard or become a star quarterback.
- Authenticity, faith and fidelity should be reflected in parent’s lifestyles.
- Qualities of a dad: Manliness, temperance, making significant time for family, putting aside work, and being a reliable source of guidance.
- Qualities of a mom: Emotional stability, selflessness, loving service and extreme patience.
I appreciate the good priest’s wise advice for parents and recommend you read the interview with Father Sliney that takes a deeper look at these seven points here.
However, you can also read my book, God’s Design for the Highly Healthy Teen. For pre-teen boys, I’ve written Lintball Leo’s Not-So-Stupid Questions About Your Body, and for tweens/teens I’ve written The Ultimate Guys’ Body Book: Not-so-stupid questions about your body.
To learn more, you can read these other posts:
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 1
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 2
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 3
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 4
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 5
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 6
- The ABCD’s of Parenting – Part 7
Here are three other posts that may be helpful in nurturing highly, healthy teens: